I pay for most of my son's college tuition. I want to know my money is not being wasted, so I think I should be entitled to his grades. He always makes excuses for not showing them to me. When I called the school and identified myself as his father and the person who writes the tuition check, they said that because he is an adult they cannot let me see the grades without his permission. How do I find out what kind of education my money is paying for?
Congratulations of having a son who is working toward a college education! You should be commended for your efforts to financially support him and instill in him the need to continue his education.
Your frustration with the school not giving you access to the grades is understandable. However, they really are not able to give out grades without the consent of the adult student.
One way of resolving this is to continue to speak to your son about seeing his grades. If he has good grades, he might have a legitimate reason to want to keep them a secret -- wouldn't you like to be surprised to learn on graduation day that your son is graduating with honors? If he is getting low marks, you could approach the subject as inquiring whether he needs more financial help, such as paying for a tutor.
It is a bit heavy-handed, but you always can make your tuition payments contingent upon access to grades. The exact expectations could be written into a contract that specifies each party's rights and obligations. Hopefully, this will not be necessary.
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