I don't think teens listen when you try to talk to them. If they did, she would have listened when you asked her to do the dishes. They zone out and think what you're saying is just more telling how they screwed up and they don't want to hear it. She is too wrapped in herself to care how something makes you feel. I say take the door of off her room. If that doesn't work, take her furniture one piece at a time. Eventually she'll get tired of sleeping on the floor and come around. If she wants the comforts you provide, she needs to earn them! If none of this works then tell her she doesn't get to drive until she learns responsibility around the house. Harsh consequences are the only way to teach people anything. Be consistent and follow through! Letting her off of her grounding early doesn't teach her anything.